Maybe I forgot to - Forget Me Not

So the other day in church in our women's meeting we had a lesson on the talk given by one of our church leaders titled Forget Me Not.

I really enjoyed this talk and I appreciated the lesson that was given. I felt that it went well with the quote that I put in our bulletin for the week which was:  “Sometimes when you feel like you are a caterpillar and say to yourself: ‘I’m not smart, I’m not very coordinated, I’m different, I don’t have this, I don’t have that’—keep in mind who you are. We don’t all have to be the same. We come in different sizes, different shapes, different colors. Some have some talents, some have others; we don’t have to be exactly like someone else.”

Back to the lesson: there is a section on this talk about how women (or men) need to be patient with themselves. Basically he talks about how everyone has strenghts and weaknesses and we are not all perfect. He also emphasized that we need to be compassionate and patient with ourselves.

This is so true, I know that I am my worst critic and the hardest on myself. So when our teacher asked if anyone had any thoughts about this I thought of something I learned. I thought of the following and shared it with the class.

I fall into the trap where I have friends and I see all the positives in them and then when we are talking about our day, or our discouragements, fears, or what they believe their shortcomings are I am blown away. Why? Well for two reasons: 1. I learn that we ALL do have our insecurities and moments of feeling like we are not where we should be and 2. I can't believe they are being so hard on themselves.

So since that talk and actually for the past year I have thought of just trying to focus on the positives that my friends have. I figure, it helps me stay positive, they are my friends and I love them dearly so why would I focus on their shortcomings or go talk about them with other individuals. Don't get me wrong I am not saying I am good at this but it is something I am working on being better as I grow.  I have tried to work on focusing on helping them get up when they fall or feel discouraged and see how high up the mountain they are in this hike called life. This I believe will help them know that I am there for them and maybe just maybe they will be there for me too as we strive to achieve our ultimate goals.

That night as I got ready for bed I thought of some things that were said to me and while maybe they were just joking; some of them I did feel hurt as they were repeated a few times. I realize those individuals must not really think of me as a friend and that is ok because I don't have to be friends with everyone. However, it also made me think a lot about the lesson and my goal to say positive things to and about people;  specifically those that are my friends and I care so much about. 

So if you want to read this great talk I have a link below; if not that is ok but please consider to be a little kinder and patient with yourself as well as others.

http://www.lds.org/prophets-and-apostles/unto-all-the-world/president-uchtdorf-reminds-sisters-of-five-things-to-forget-not?lang=eng