One of the things I am grateful for is having had male friends who like me are also single. Being single can be hard for some and for me it has been fun. However, I do enjoy having a male friend that I can go to a sporting event, concert, dinner or invite to be my +1 to a work event, or have me make a car repair or car buying decision.
Luckily with that said, I am fortunate that I have married friends who I am friends with both the wife and husband and sometimes I actually have more in common with the husband. I am even extremely lucky when their relationship is established on trust and that trust is extended to me and the wife does not think twice about me and the husband going to a sporting event as well as always makes sure I know I can count on them for help.
With that said it is not the same as having a male friend who is also single and you can just call or text and be normal with. I was fortunate to had that in CA with a long time work acquaintance that we came to refer to each other as work husband / wife. We would help each other out at work and in our personal life - I would help with making appointments for him and he would help me with advise on car repairs etc. and we would go out to dinner and happy hours. Then there was my church friend - Dreamy Chris who I really thought was stuckup and self centered as we were in the same stake and had mutual friends but he never really hung around or seemed friendly. When we finally had the opportunity to establish a friendship I learned my assumption of him was 180 degrees off. He was so loved by people because of how charitable, kind, caring, and helpful he is. We would talk about the Gospel, encourage each other, go out to dinner, go to the temple, baseball games, was willing to drive on the 91 at rush hour with me so I could pick up my niece in Moreno Valley so we could see the Twilight Movie at midnight in Buena Park, and was there for me when I had to have a biopsy and was super scared. So I miss my work husband who still lives in CA and Dreamy Chris who moved to ID a while back.
When I moved to TX I thought I had at least three possibilities of male friends who could fill in those shoes (they are big shoes to fill) but the reality is so far all three possibilities have not fanned out. One moved away for work and I am super happy for him; the other travels a lot for work and is rarely in town and while he is very apologetic, I don't think he realizes how sad it makes me that we don't get to do things we talked about doing; and the other I had never met and after we did he apparently didn't think I was worthy of his friendship and that one is the one that has me baffled. It also makes me wonder if I am that bad of a person. Just kidding I know I am not because a co worker texted me today and told me what her son said.
So until I get an answer as to why and when single men stop needing single women as a friend I will cling to the words of a young man - "Miss Adriana is so sweet and so nice Mama".
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