If you read my previous post you read about Honda boy and Wars and SD guys. So last night I finally caved in and went out to dinner with Honda.
I knew this was not something I wanted to pursue a few weeks ago when we talked on the phone. Correction - when he talked on the phone. I didn't say much as each time I started I was interrupted with approval and a story.
When I drove up to the restaurant I saw him sitting outside and realized the pic I had seen was probably a few months/years old. The brown hair was no longer brown as it was white. So while I thought of just driving by and texting that I was not able to be there - I cowgirl up and approached him.
He was quite confident and went in for a hug and I put my hand out and said "hi, nice to meet you" which caught him off guard and I explained I was not a hugger.
So I was told I could order anything I wanted - and we did order our food. I could not wait for it to get there so that maybe we could have some quiet time or maybe I could say something. Well, once the food arrive there was some quiet time but dining etiquette was needed.
So I did try to engage in conversation while he ate but I still didn't feel any interest and found myself thinking "I gave up a session with my trainer for this?" as well as thinking of TX.
Luckily I had shared how I have been having really bad sleep - honest truth and I was tired and should call it a night. He walked me to my car because he was parked near me. So on my drive back home which is 15 minutes away I received 3 texts from him.
Today I received another text mentioning how he was worried I hadn't texted him today and was that a bad sign. I am sorry to say I still have not responded. Why? Well first off all I don't text him right away because I am not into him. Second, how can I text someone that I had already told I didn't think we were a good match but was persistent and I caved in for dinner that it was confirmed that we are not a good match and I have no interest?
I want to be kind and sensitive because that is how I would want to be treated but I may have to be direct.
Any tips on how to do this will be appreciated.
Reading this make me miss you my friend!
ReplyDeleteIt's frustrating when the other person doesn't get the hint at all. Although, it's not a surprise considering how much he talks too much. Plus lack of dinner etiquette! Eck!!
I think when it comes to dating, I'd rather just save time. I'd probably just text him, since it's your turn to respond (which makes it even easier), and be direct. "Thank you for the invitation to dinner, but I think we're just not compatible [ie: on any level, together, etc]. I wish you well [on your dating pursuits]. Take care." HOPE he gets the hint and doesn't reply.
Oh I miss you too!!!! Girl I am debating s to if I should post the follow up of the next few days. I think I will. Trust being direct with him does not work. I tried it a few weeks ago and it was clearly a failure.
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